I went for another doctor's appointment back on the 12th. I waited for almost an hour before I was seen. Half of that time was spent standing as none of the MEN waiting for their wives (or whatever) had the decency to give me their seat. That wasn't a great start. Then, I go in to see the doctor and he says, "You're the one having twins, right?" OMFG. Are you for real? How about opening my chart before you see me? Then during the ultrasound, he had to go back and look at his file before he could remember my name to type it into the computer. Once that was finished, he had to use the chart again to tell me how many weeks pregnant I was. I know doctors see a lot of patients, but guess what? Try to pretend it's personal or something.
This is the same doctor who, during my first ultrasound, asked my husband and I, "There's two babies in there, right?" As though he wasn't quite sure.
I was already pretty irritated and quite frankly, I absolutely have hated every doctor's visit I've had. Then he whips out a form and tells me I "need to sign this." It was a form that said I agreed to have a c-section, no matter what. I read this form and looked at him and said, "Why?" He told me it was for the safety of the babies and this was the practice in Thailand. He proceeded to tell me that there were no doctors that would let me try for natural child birth.
Well dudes. I guess this is the part where one might say I went "apeshit." I just started to cry and then I got very angry. I told him I had read that doctors here have this philosophy because they have no interest in spending time with women, as is required by natural childbirth. He didn't say anything to that. Of course, later, I was reminded that doctors here also encourage these so much as they get more money out of you.
More money, indeed. I was also told that we'd have to pay a minimum of 3 MILLION baht (that's about $100,000) upfront, for the birth costs alone. I asked if there was some kind of payment plan available for this and he just laughed at me.
At that point, I told him was not signing this form. That I didn't believe what he was saying, and that was that. He told me if I didn't sign the form by my next appointment, I'd have to get care elsewhere. And then he told me I'd "probably get better medical care back in the United States anyway." He then went on to explain that preemies aren't always provided with the best care here in Thailand. Ah. Good to know now. MAYBE YOU COULD'VE MENTIONED ALL THIS BULLSHIT A MONTH AGO.
Well I don't know about you, but this made for a fairly easy decision. The hubs and I talked about it, and I'll be headed back to our beloved country in early December, and staying wit my parents until the babies are okay to fly (probably by May). This is not ideal, as the hubs will only get to fly back for the birth. But you know what? I'm getting better care, access to SAFE baby things, the care of my family and friends, and support.
I can honestly say this has been a terrible experience, here in Bangkok. I know plenty of ex-pat women have children here and maybe it's easier with just one baby. In any case, the doctors here treat patients like cattle and I can't wait to get back to a hospital where the doctor will actually TALK to me. Instead of at me.
So now I get to mentally prepare to rewind and live, once again, with my parents. This will be challenging but I appreciate them taking me in. I'm not your average house guest, that's for sure. And this, my friends, will then turn into a blog about life with my parents, preparing for twins in a house with two bedrooms total. This will be much more entertaining, and much less depressing. I hope.